Teenager|Articles, Videos and Answers about the Teenager
May
31
Filed Under (Relationships) by teenager
Francis Githinji asked:
In life, people fall in love at many stages. It is very possible for every person no matter their age to feel or fall in love. However, there is a certain stage in life where we reach and everyone seems to want love. I’m talking about the teenage years and love. When a teenager falls in love, it is referred to as teenage love. Teens are very volatile people and this is pretty understandable. It is the first time in life to feel the urge to love the opposite ***. This is on the onset of their physical growth. Their hormones are usually referred to as running wild and this is very much the case. Teenage is a confusing place to be because you are not old enough to be called mature and you are not too young to be called a child. This is the time where most youth act out and when it comes to the matters of the heart, a lot of them fall in love. Teenage love has sometimes been referred to as not being real love. Instead, experts say that a lot of feelings that teens have for the opposite *** is mainly infatuation. This is a form of lust that passes with time.
However, love being hard to define, it is vital that all cases be looked at differently. It is during this stage that many teens make the worse mistakes of their lives but, this is usually not the case in other situations. Sexually, teens what to experience and explore first hand, the kind of emotions that are associated with love. It is therefore paramount to understand exactly what they are going through before you are quick to give them advice. The biggest issue that is always a source of debate is *** during teenage. Many want to know what it is all about. Others believe that for love to be real there must be sexual ***********. With the modern world, more and more teens are having choices when it comes to ***. Many have not come up openly to condemn teenage ***. In the past, when young people reached teenage, this was a time for them to be married off. For this reason, teens cannot be totally condemned for wanting to exercise that which has been there since time began. However, with civilization, more and more parents have come out strongly to condemn any love consummation for their teens.
The question whether this is real love or not, still remains as more teens get involved emotionally with other people. One thing that we can say for sure is that, if the love during teenage is not real; the person involved will have to learn through experience. Thankfully, teenage is only a phase of life and as you grow, you will discover things and become wiser in the matter of love. However, when it comes to love, no one can claim to be an expert. It comes without mention and no one has control over it. Therefore, the best thing that teens can do is to empower themselves and know how to handle themselves when it comes to matters of the heart. Otherwise, love is meant to be enjoyed to the fullest.
CESAR
In life, people fall in love at many stages. It is very possible for every person no matter their age to feel or fall in love. However, there is a certain stage in life where we reach and everyone seems to want love. I’m talking about the teenage years and love. When a teenager falls in love, it is referred to as teenage love. Teens are very volatile people and this is pretty understandable. It is the first time in life to feel the urge to love the opposite ***. This is on the onset of their physical growth. Their hormones are usually referred to as running wild and this is very much the case. Teenage is a confusing place to be because you are not old enough to be called mature and you are not too young to be called a child. This is the time where most youth act out and when it comes to the matters of the heart, a lot of them fall in love. Teenage love has sometimes been referred to as not being real love. Instead, experts say that a lot of feelings that teens have for the opposite *** is mainly infatuation. This is a form of lust that passes with time.
However, love being hard to define, it is vital that all cases be looked at differently. It is during this stage that many teens make the worse mistakes of their lives but, this is usually not the case in other situations. Sexually, teens what to experience and explore first hand, the kind of emotions that are associated with love. It is therefore paramount to understand exactly what they are going through before you are quick to give them advice. The biggest issue that is always a source of debate is *** during teenage. Many want to know what it is all about. Others believe that for love to be real there must be sexual ***********. With the modern world, more and more teens are having choices when it comes to ***. Many have not come up openly to condemn teenage ***. In the past, when young people reached teenage, this was a time for them to be married off. For this reason, teens cannot be totally condemned for wanting to exercise that which has been there since time began. However, with civilization, more and more parents have come out strongly to condemn any love consummation for their teens.
The question whether this is real love or not, still remains as more teens get involved emotionally with other people. One thing that we can say for sure is that, if the love during teenage is not real; the person involved will have to learn through experience. Thankfully, teenage is only a phase of life and as you grow, you will discover things and become wiser in the matter of love. However, when it comes to love, no one can claim to be an expert. It comes without mention and no one has control over it. Therefore, the best thing that teens can do is to empower themselves and know how to handle themselves when it comes to matters of the heart. Otherwise, love is meant to be enjoyed to the fullest.
CESAR
Dec
30
Filed Under (Relationships) by teenager
Francis Githinji asked:
In life, people fall in love at many stages. It is very possible for every person no matter their age to feel or fall in love. However, there is a certain stage in life where we reach and everyone seems to want love. I’m talking about the teenage years and love. When a teenager falls in love, it is referred to as teenage love. Teens are very volatile people and this is pretty understandable. It is the first time in life to feel the urge to love the opposite ***. This is on the onset of their physical growth. Their hormones are usually referred to as running wild and this is very much the case. Teenage is a confusing place to be because you are not old enough to be called mature and you are not too young to be called a child. This is the time where most youth act out and when it comes to the matters of the heart, a lot of them fall in love. Teenage love has sometimes been referred to as not being real love. Instead, experts say that a lot of feelings that teens have for the opposite *** is mainly infatuation. This is a form of lust that passes with time.
However, love being hard to define, it is vital that all cases be looked at differently. It is during this stage that many teens make the worse mistakes of their lives but, this is usually not the case in other situations. Sexually, teens what to experience and explore first hand, the kind of emotions that are associated with love. It is therefore paramount to understand exactly what they are going through before you are quick to give them advice. The biggest issue that is always a source of debate is *** during teenage. Many want to know what it is all about. Others believe that for love to be real there must be sexual ***********. With the modern world, more and more teens are having choices when it comes to ***. Many have not come up openly to condemn teenage ***. In the past, when young people reached teenage, this was a time for them to be married off. For this reason, teens cannot be totally condemned for wanting to exercise that which has been there since time began. However, with civilization, more and more parents have come out strongly to condemn any love consummation for their teens.
The question whether this is real love or not, still remains as more teens get involved emotionally with other people. One thing that we can say for sure is that, if the love during teenage is not real; the person involved will have to learn through experience. Thankfully, teenage is only a phase of life and as you grow, you will discover things and become wiser in the matter of love. However, when it comes to love, no one can claim to be an expert. It comes without mention and no one has control over it. Therefore, the best thing that teens can do is to empower themselves and know how to handle themselves when it comes to matters of the heart. Otherwise, love is meant to be enjoyed to the fullest.
EUGENE
In life, people fall in love at many stages. It is very possible for every person no matter their age to feel or fall in love. However, there is a certain stage in life where we reach and everyone seems to want love. I’m talking about the teenage years and love. When a teenager falls in love, it is referred to as teenage love. Teens are very volatile people and this is pretty understandable. It is the first time in life to feel the urge to love the opposite ***. This is on the onset of their physical growth. Their hormones are usually referred to as running wild and this is very much the case. Teenage is a confusing place to be because you are not old enough to be called mature and you are not too young to be called a child. This is the time where most youth act out and when it comes to the matters of the heart, a lot of them fall in love. Teenage love has sometimes been referred to as not being real love. Instead, experts say that a lot of feelings that teens have for the opposite *** is mainly infatuation. This is a form of lust that passes with time.
However, love being hard to define, it is vital that all cases be looked at differently. It is during this stage that many teens make the worse mistakes of their lives but, this is usually not the case in other situations. Sexually, teens what to experience and explore first hand, the kind of emotions that are associated with love. It is therefore paramount to understand exactly what they are going through before you are quick to give them advice. The biggest issue that is always a source of debate is *** during teenage. Many want to know what it is all about. Others believe that for love to be real there must be sexual ***********. With the modern world, more and more teens are having choices when it comes to ***. Many have not come up openly to condemn teenage ***. In the past, when young people reached teenage, this was a time for them to be married off. For this reason, teens cannot be totally condemned for wanting to exercise that which has been there since time began. However, with civilization, more and more parents have come out strongly to condemn any love consummation for their teens.
The question whether this is real love or not, still remains as more teens get involved emotionally with other people. One thing that we can say for sure is that, if the love during teenage is not real; the person involved will have to learn through experience. Thankfully, teenage is only a phase of life and as you grow, you will discover things and become wiser in the matter of love. However, when it comes to love, no one can claim to be an expert. It comes without mention and no one has control over it. Therefore, the best thing that teens can do is to empower themselves and know how to handle themselves when it comes to matters of the heart. Otherwise, love is meant to be enjoyed to the fullest.
EUGENE
Sep
24
Filed Under (Relationships) by teenager
Nivea David asked:
In a teenagers life when the start the enjoy the life and special events,the pregnance is a very big problem in there life.The teenagers pregnance is very big problem of the world mostly the develop contary.when the teenages are coming out to the pregnant then the abortion is the simple solution of this essuse. The abortion is a process to dead the pregnant child befour his borth. But the abortion is the bad ,because in a abortion the innocent life is got the dead. Teenage pregnancy is technically defined as occurring when women under the age of 20 become pregnant, although in the india and other countary of the world like as USA and other develop countary , the term usually refers to girls younger than 18 years of age. God is creating of all things for every life. For by him were all things created, that are in heaven, and that are in earth, visible and invisible, whether they be thrones, or dominions, or principalities, or powers: all things were created by him: and he is before all things, and by him all things consist And it is He that has ordained life as sacred.
Pregnant teenagers face many of the same obstetrics issues as women in their 20s and 30s. However, there are additional medical concerns for younger mothers, particularly those under 15 and those living in developing countries. For mothers between 15 and 19, age in itself is not a risk factor, but additional risks may be associated with sociol factors. Teen pregnancy as a social issue in developed countries include lower educational levels, higher rates of poverty, and other poorer “life outcomes” in children of teenage mothers.
Teenage pregnancy in developed countries is usually outside of marriage, and carries a social stigma in many communities and cultures. For these reasons, there have been many studies and campaigns which attempt to uncover the causes and limit the numbers of teenage pregnancies. To the prevent the teenagers pregnance and abortion case, firstly we can give the sex education of teenagers, and full knowledge of sexual-relation and pregnance, also In the areas where the education level is
very low.
An abortion before the twelfth week, teens with unwanted pregnancies hurriedly take drastic measures to fix a problem. But, the problem, according to teen abortion facts, does not go away after a pregnancy is terminated. And for some, the problem is only beginning. A disorder called Post Traumatic Stress is plaguing millions of teenagers who are not psychologically stable enough to cope with the trauma associated with an unplanned pregnancy, life-altering decisions, and the destruction of life. After the surgery, guilt, shame, erratic behaviors, and substance abuse, even suicide, can result. And, at the center of those teens that self report issues, is the fear of being held accountable to God. All major decisions such as this should consider for a while before any life changing and irreversible changes take place.
It is important to understand all options and be able to make a confident decision based on facts and personal feelings.
Teenage fatherhood can also be a challenge. Many feel obliged to support their child, but due to the low levels of state benefits awarded to such couples, in addition to the low quantity of money that they often earn due to their age, are unable to do so fully. Another addition is that being a teenage father is sometimes looked down upon by society and peers. Teen abortion is a decision that will impact your life dramatically, whether you decide to abort or decide to give birth. People you know will choose to support your decision or condemn your decision, but this is your decision and you will live with the choice you make for the rest of your life.
Teen abortion has many risks. Studies have proven that abortion may lead to an increased chance of breast cancer, Pelvic Inflammatory Disease, depression, and the contraction of Viral Hepatitis, not to mention death due to excessive bleeding or other complications. Whether you choose to keep your baby, put it up for adoption or have an abortion, hormones run crazy when you are pregnant. Hormones are to blame for the drastic mood swings pregnant women have during pregnancy. As you feel the life inside you start to grow, you will become attached to, or perhaps even angry at, this new life.
This life is exactly that - he or she is alive and it is a part of you. Teen abortion will affect you well into the future. Initially, you will feel cramping as the excess blood is discharging from your body — similar, but not as strong as, the pains felt during labor and delivery. This physical effect may cause you to feel an emotional emptiness you have never felt before. This emptiness is the beginning of depression that studies say can last a lifetime.
To protect your teens from that go to the following web sites:
http://www.troubledteensdirectory.com/
http://www.restoringtroubledteens.com/
Troubled Teens Directory is the most honest and integral Internet-based educational consulting service available and designed to serve parents, adolescents and youths who are in need of guidance.
GAVIN
In a teenagers life when the start the enjoy the life and special events,the pregnance is a very big problem in there life.The teenagers pregnance is very big problem of the world mostly the develop contary.when the teenages are coming out to the pregnant then the abortion is the simple solution of this essuse. The abortion is a process to dead the pregnant child befour his borth. But the abortion is the bad ,because in a abortion the innocent life is got the dead. Teenage pregnancy is technically defined as occurring when women under the age of 20 become pregnant, although in the india and other countary of the world like as USA and other develop countary , the term usually refers to girls younger than 18 years of age. God is creating of all things for every life. For by him were all things created, that are in heaven, and that are in earth, visible and invisible, whether they be thrones, or dominions, or principalities, or powers: all things were created by him: and he is before all things, and by him all things consist And it is He that has ordained life as sacred.
Pregnant teenagers face many of the same obstetrics issues as women in their 20s and 30s. However, there are additional medical concerns for younger mothers, particularly those under 15 and those living in developing countries. For mothers between 15 and 19, age in itself is not a risk factor, but additional risks may be associated with sociol factors. Teen pregnancy as a social issue in developed countries include lower educational levels, higher rates of poverty, and other poorer “life outcomes” in children of teenage mothers.
Teenage pregnancy in developed countries is usually outside of marriage, and carries a social stigma in many communities and cultures. For these reasons, there have been many studies and campaigns which attempt to uncover the causes and limit the numbers of teenage pregnancies. To the prevent the teenagers pregnance and abortion case, firstly we can give the sex education of teenagers, and full knowledge of sexual-relation and pregnance, also In the areas where the education level is
very low.
An abortion before the twelfth week, teens with unwanted pregnancies hurriedly take drastic measures to fix a problem. But, the problem, according to teen abortion facts, does not go away after a pregnancy is terminated. And for some, the problem is only beginning. A disorder called Post Traumatic Stress is plaguing millions of teenagers who are not psychologically stable enough to cope with the trauma associated with an unplanned pregnancy, life-altering decisions, and the destruction of life. After the surgery, guilt, shame, erratic behaviors, and substance abuse, even suicide, can result. And, at the center of those teens that self report issues, is the fear of being held accountable to God. All major decisions such as this should consider for a while before any life changing and irreversible changes take place.
It is important to understand all options and be able to make a confident decision based on facts and personal feelings.
Teenage fatherhood can also be a challenge. Many feel obliged to support their child, but due to the low levels of state benefits awarded to such couples, in addition to the low quantity of money that they often earn due to their age, are unable to do so fully. Another addition is that being a teenage father is sometimes looked down upon by society and peers. Teen abortion is a decision that will impact your life dramatically, whether you decide to abort or decide to give birth. People you know will choose to support your decision or condemn your decision, but this is your decision and you will live with the choice you make for the rest of your life.
Teen abortion has many risks. Studies have proven that abortion may lead to an increased chance of breast cancer, Pelvic Inflammatory Disease, depression, and the contraction of Viral Hepatitis, not to mention death due to excessive bleeding or other complications. Whether you choose to keep your baby, put it up for adoption or have an abortion, hormones run crazy when you are pregnant. Hormones are to blame for the drastic mood swings pregnant women have during pregnancy. As you feel the life inside you start to grow, you will become attached to, or perhaps even angry at, this new life.
This life is exactly that - he or she is alive and it is a part of you. Teen abortion will affect you well into the future. Initially, you will feel cramping as the excess blood is discharging from your body — similar, but not as strong as, the pains felt during labor and delivery. This physical effect may cause you to feel an emotional emptiness you have never felt before. This emptiness is the beginning of depression that studies say can last a lifetime.
To protect your teens from that go to the following web sites:
http://www.troubledteensdirectory.com/
http://www.restoringtroubledteens.com/
Troubled Teens Directory is the most honest and integral Internet-based educational consulting service available and designed to serve parents, adolescents and youths who are in need of guidance.
GAVIN
Sep
01
Filed Under (Relationships) by teenager
Michael Douglas asked:
She whispers for hours on the telephone to someone whom she claims is “just a friend”. She is absent-minded and you can often see her staring into space with a contented smile upon her face. She is your teenager and she is in the throes of her first crush!
To have the capacity to feel a crush for someone is the first greatest discovery of being an adolescent. That is the time when your teenagers room is filled with posters of handsome and beautiful stars.
The beginning of a crush is often marked by a total enslaving of the “fan” towards a very distant object of adoration which is not reality but more of a dream.
Anybody who does not have a crush on any movie star or rock star during his adolescence can possibly have a stunted psychological and emotional growth, was what one of my psychologist friends, Joe Ross told me. This crush can be even towards someone seen fleetingly and never ever seen again. But that person seems to be the epitome of everything that is perfect in every way!
It can also be a college mate whom your teenager does not dare to approach because her or she is so unattainable.
It is noticed that children who do not go through this stage of crushes during any stage of their childhood or adolescence grow up to be antisocial and emotionally underdeveloped. This is due to the fact that they do not want to allow themselves to get attached to someone, even if he or she is someone totally unattainable. So, when they have to start relationships with “real life” people, they find it difficult to communicate and open up, in a normal way.
It is usually at the age of 15 or 16 that a teenager decides to do something about newly found emotions and dreams of love for someone other than his parents and family. It is this love which will allow her to move away from the secure cocoon of family life and affection while being assured of reassuring transition to adulthood.
The idea of boyfriend or girlfriend has never been part of the Oriental tradition, but a life expectancy in the medieval ages was very low, child marriage were the norm. However, thanks to the superimposition of Western culture and beliefs on us through books and the cable TV, it is not unusual to see parents of schoolchildren teasing them about their boyfriends and girlfriends. Here are some facts about teenage crushes which every parent should know.
She is certain that this is the love of her life
At this age, which is romantic beyond compare, girls normally dream of love at first sight or a romantic strike of lightning. It is usually someone older whom they believe is the love of their life.
In this case even if this enthusiasm makes you want to laugh a little, remember that making a mockery of his or her emotions is going to make your teenager rebel with the age-old cry of, “You don’t understand me! What do parents know about love?” She will also tell you that grand historical romances always occurred when the hero and heroine like Romeo and Juliet were teenagers. It would be no use to tell her that these stories spoke about life as it was then and not as it is now! After all Juliet was only 14 when she met and married Romeo.
And everybody knows how disastrous that turned out to be! It is not the job of parents to make this teenager come down from the clouds; her life is charged at the moment with the idea of being in love! The only risk is that she lives in a world of illusion and not in reality. Young boys, however, are more interested in experiences rather than emotional engagements.
She is fickle in her crushes
Yesterday she supposed herself to be in love with X, today she is desperate for Y - what is going to happen tomorrow? In searching for the love of her life, an adolescent passes through the stages of being enamoured by many specimens! You can call first loves, fireworks intense and burning red hot but without any substance.
What should parents do under such circumstances? Do not get really worried and remember that your child is more intelligent than you give her or him credit to be. She is just trying out her wings and her power to show that yes, she is attractive, though there are other friends who are even more attractive. But it is a mother’s duty to tell her teenager that too much flirtation can give her a reputation of being a “light female, not to be ever taken seriously!” This sort of name sticks for a long time.
Often, a young girl gets annoyed when her parents do not like her friends. For the first time, parents have to accept that they are not the centre of interest for their daughter.
First of all, please avoid a critical appraisal of her friends. An adolescent must have confidence to believe that her parents will allow her to build new relationships outside the family. A negative opinion repeated frequently will make her reinforce something which was just a minor crush into the love of her life! And she will do that only to prove her independence.
But if you really have any doubts about the suitability of her “crush” always remember to speak to your child frankly and without a hectoring tone. You can explain your reservations upon the great cultural differences or a difference in age without humiliating your adolescent. It is necessary for you to be firm if you really think her to be in a danger. She will feel reassured by this attitude because an adolescent has a need to feel protected even if she shouts long and loud against it!
If parents do not know who her “best friend” is, you should remember that when a girl has her first crush she does not want her parents to know about it for fear of ridicule!
Nowadays, many parents want to interfere in the lives of their children by asking questions about each and every friend they have. They want to know everything. Sometimes, they give more importance to the friends of their daughter than to their daughter herself.
You have to respect her dream garden. Remember that if she’s really serious about someone, she will want him to make your acquaintance for your approval. What do you do when your child weeps into her pillow and cries that she does not want to live anymore because her heart is broken?
Do not trivialise her suffering because she is experiencing adult emotions for the first time.
And above all never say the words, “This too shall pass, it is not the first time. This has happened and it will not be the last!” Resist the temptation to try and make her forget the feelings by distracting her. That will annoy her even more because this sort of catharsis is more of a bid to show that a person is adult and self-dramatising rather than something which is deeply felt and rooted.
In fact, it is a plea from the adolescent who says “Please, pay attention to me, I am suffering so much!” But do not add your mite by telling her I told you so or anything else equally annoying!” A parent should envelope the child with care without negating her feelings, as far as possible.
She does not interest herself in boys at all!
If she has plenty of friends and she is healthy do not get worried unnecessarily. Even though she is quite young, she has her imagination and she is normal. Do not harass her with unnecessary and futile questions.
But on the other hand, if she is isolated she does not interest herself in friends or any activity, it is possible that she is not well and needs medical help.
Everybody knows that being a parent is not easy, especially when your child is entering teenage. The teenage years are the age when a child gets in touch with her emotions and if the parents are not supportive, they will always regret the fact that their child does not trust them anymore.
ALPHONSE
She whispers for hours on the telephone to someone whom she claims is “just a friend”. She is absent-minded and you can often see her staring into space with a contented smile upon her face. She is your teenager and she is in the throes of her first crush!
To have the capacity to feel a crush for someone is the first greatest discovery of being an adolescent. That is the time when your teenagers room is filled with posters of handsome and beautiful stars.
The beginning of a crush is often marked by a total enslaving of the “fan” towards a very distant object of adoration which is not reality but more of a dream.
Anybody who does not have a crush on any movie star or rock star during his adolescence can possibly have a stunted psychological and emotional growth, was what one of my psychologist friends, Joe Ross told me. This crush can be even towards someone seen fleetingly and never ever seen again. But that person seems to be the epitome of everything that is perfect in every way!
It can also be a college mate whom your teenager does not dare to approach because her or she is so unattainable.
It is noticed that children who do not go through this stage of crushes during any stage of their childhood or adolescence grow up to be antisocial and emotionally underdeveloped. This is due to the fact that they do not want to allow themselves to get attached to someone, even if he or she is someone totally unattainable. So, when they have to start relationships with “real life” people, they find it difficult to communicate and open up, in a normal way.
It is usually at the age of 15 or 16 that a teenager decides to do something about newly found emotions and dreams of love for someone other than his parents and family. It is this love which will allow her to move away from the secure cocoon of family life and affection while being assured of reassuring transition to adulthood.
The idea of boyfriend or girlfriend has never been part of the Oriental tradition, but a life expectancy in the medieval ages was very low, child marriage were the norm. However, thanks to the superimposition of Western culture and beliefs on us through books and the cable TV, it is not unusual to see parents of schoolchildren teasing them about their boyfriends and girlfriends. Here are some facts about teenage crushes which every parent should know.
She is certain that this is the love of her life
At this age, which is romantic beyond compare, girls normally dream of love at first sight or a romantic strike of lightning. It is usually someone older whom they believe is the love of their life.
In this case even if this enthusiasm makes you want to laugh a little, remember that making a mockery of his or her emotions is going to make your teenager rebel with the age-old cry of, “You don’t understand me! What do parents know about love?” She will also tell you that grand historical romances always occurred when the hero and heroine like Romeo and Juliet were teenagers. It would be no use to tell her that these stories spoke about life as it was then and not as it is now! After all Juliet was only 14 when she met and married Romeo.
And everybody knows how disastrous that turned out to be! It is not the job of parents to make this teenager come down from the clouds; her life is charged at the moment with the idea of being in love! The only risk is that she lives in a world of illusion and not in reality. Young boys, however, are more interested in experiences rather than emotional engagements.
She is fickle in her crushes
Yesterday she supposed herself to be in love with X, today she is desperate for Y - what is going to happen tomorrow? In searching for the love of her life, an adolescent passes through the stages of being enamoured by many specimens! You can call first loves, fireworks intense and burning red hot but without any substance.
What should parents do under such circumstances? Do not get really worried and remember that your child is more intelligent than you give her or him credit to be. She is just trying out her wings and her power to show that yes, she is attractive, though there are other friends who are even more attractive. But it is a mother’s duty to tell her teenager that too much flirtation can give her a reputation of being a “light female, not to be ever taken seriously!” This sort of name sticks for a long time.
Often, a young girl gets annoyed when her parents do not like her friends. For the first time, parents have to accept that they are not the centre of interest for their daughter.
First of all, please avoid a critical appraisal of her friends. An adolescent must have confidence to believe that her parents will allow her to build new relationships outside the family. A negative opinion repeated frequently will make her reinforce something which was just a minor crush into the love of her life! And she will do that only to prove her independence.
But if you really have any doubts about the suitability of her “crush” always remember to speak to your child frankly and without a hectoring tone. You can explain your reservations upon the great cultural differences or a difference in age without humiliating your adolescent. It is necessary for you to be firm if you really think her to be in a danger. She will feel reassured by this attitude because an adolescent has a need to feel protected even if she shouts long and loud against it!
If parents do not know who her “best friend” is, you should remember that when a girl has her first crush she does not want her parents to know about it for fear of ridicule!
Nowadays, many parents want to interfere in the lives of their children by asking questions about each and every friend they have. They want to know everything. Sometimes, they give more importance to the friends of their daughter than to their daughter herself.
You have to respect her dream garden. Remember that if she’s really serious about someone, she will want him to make your acquaintance for your approval. What do you do when your child weeps into her pillow and cries that she does not want to live anymore because her heart is broken?
Do not trivialise her suffering because she is experiencing adult emotions for the first time.
And above all never say the words, “This too shall pass, it is not the first time. This has happened and it will not be the last!” Resist the temptation to try and make her forget the feelings by distracting her. That will annoy her even more because this sort of catharsis is more of a bid to show that a person is adult and self-dramatising rather than something which is deeply felt and rooted.
In fact, it is a plea from the adolescent who says “Please, pay attention to me, I am suffering so much!” But do not add your mite by telling her I told you so or anything else equally annoying!” A parent should envelope the child with care without negating her feelings, as far as possible.
She does not interest herself in boys at all!
If she has plenty of friends and she is healthy do not get worried unnecessarily. Even though she is quite young, she has her imagination and she is normal. Do not harass her with unnecessary and futile questions.
But on the other hand, if she is isolated she does not interest herself in friends or any activity, it is possible that she is not well and needs medical help.
Everybody knows that being a parent is not easy, especially when your child is entering teenage. The teenage years are the age when a child gets in touch with her emotions and if the parents are not supportive, they will always regret the fact that their child does not trust them anymore.
ALPHONSE
Aug
24
Filed Under (Relationships) by teenager
Sacha Tarkovsky asked:
For anyone raising children, learning the art of communication with teenagers is an absolute necessity.
Many of us take good communication for granted and little thought is given to the effective use of communication and all the things this involves.
When it comes to our children, the art of communicating with teenagers is one skill that all parents should develop for a better relationship and happier teenager
The art of Good Communication – Things to Consider
As in good communication with our peers, the art lies not just in how you express yourself verbally, but also your body language and your listening skills, the latter of which is often left out when communicating with teenagers.
Some of us find it difficult to adjust our communication skills from that which is required when our children were in 3rd grade to the firm yet respectful communication that is required when they become teenagers.
Most of us will admit we don’t always get it right so here are a few simple tips on the art of communication with teenagers.
The Art of Communication with Teenagers – Are you Listening?
How many times have you been in conversation with your teenage son or daughter and realized that you’re note really listening? You start of well enough, and at the outset they have your full attention, but before you know it, your mind is elsewhere.
It is all too easy to say ‘I hear you’, but are you really listening – the two really are completely different things!
Your teenager deserves your full attention when communicating, in the same way you expect their full attention. The art of communication is a two way thing – so think about the message you are sending to your teen when it is clear to them they only have half your attention.
The Art of Communication with Teenagers – Validate Your Teens Feelings
When your teen comes home, hating their science teacher, their best friend, or the world in general what they don’t want to hear is ‘No you don’t’. Your teen is expressing a feeling which they need to have validated, not dismissed.
The art of communication with teenagers is allowing them to vent their emotions much in the same way that a counselor allows a client space and a listening ear when they present with a problem.
Try not to dismiss their feelings out of hand, allow your teen to share their feelings with you in their own way within the limits that you set as appropriate behavior.
The Art of Communication with Teenagers – Avoid Criticism
There is many a damaged adult walking around today with parental criticism from their childhood ringing in their ears.
If there is only one thing you take on board about the art of communicating with your teenager it is this - criticize your teens behavior but never your teen.
There is a whole world of difference between ‘what you did was very stupid’ and ‘you are stupid’.
Sentences beginning with ‘why’ or ‘you’ are more like to end up as critical statements that only serve to attack your teen and put them down.
Instead try to get your teen thinking about the consequences of their behavior and choose language aimed at provoking thought. Try to start sentences with ‘I need’, ‘When you’ ‘It makes me feel…’
The Art of Communication with Teenagers – Respect
In the same way that it is important to validate your teen, it is also important that you respect their thoughts, feelings, needs and desires.
By showing them respect, teaches them to respect themselves and in turn respect others. It also teaches them that they matter and have something to offer.
Teens respect boundaries. Be clear with your teen about what you expect from them and what they can expect from you. Ensure they understand there are consequences to their actions and when they go off track ensure the punishment fits the crime.
Don’t make threats you cannot keep.
And Finally…
Praise, Praise and More Praise
From childhood all the way through their teenage years and beyond, your child can never have enough
praise.
When you praise your teen your are nourishing their self worth and raising their self esteem which will in turn help them to grow into a confident adult sure of themselves and their ability to achieve the things they set out to do.
The art of communication with teenagers is a legacy you can pass on. The way you communicate with your teen will dictate the way they communicate with others.
ANGEL
For anyone raising children, learning the art of communication with teenagers is an absolute necessity.
Many of us take good communication for granted and little thought is given to the effective use of communication and all the things this involves.
When it comes to our children, the art of communicating with teenagers is one skill that all parents should develop for a better relationship and happier teenager
The art of Good Communication – Things to Consider
As in good communication with our peers, the art lies not just in how you express yourself verbally, but also your body language and your listening skills, the latter of which is often left out when communicating with teenagers.
Some of us find it difficult to adjust our communication skills from that which is required when our children were in 3rd grade to the firm yet respectful communication that is required when they become teenagers.
Most of us will admit we don’t always get it right so here are a few simple tips on the art of communication with teenagers.
The Art of Communication with Teenagers – Are you Listening?
How many times have you been in conversation with your teenage son or daughter and realized that you’re note really listening? You start of well enough, and at the outset they have your full attention, but before you know it, your mind is elsewhere.
It is all too easy to say ‘I hear you’, but are you really listening – the two really are completely different things!
Your teenager deserves your full attention when communicating, in the same way you expect their full attention. The art of communication is a two way thing – so think about the message you are sending to your teen when it is clear to them they only have half your attention.
The Art of Communication with Teenagers – Validate Your Teens Feelings
When your teen comes home, hating their science teacher, their best friend, or the world in general what they don’t want to hear is ‘No you don’t’. Your teen is expressing a feeling which they need to have validated, not dismissed.
The art of communication with teenagers is allowing them to vent their emotions much in the same way that a counselor allows a client space and a listening ear when they present with a problem.
Try not to dismiss their feelings out of hand, allow your teen to share their feelings with you in their own way within the limits that you set as appropriate behavior.
The Art of Communication with Teenagers – Avoid Criticism
There is many a damaged adult walking around today with parental criticism from their childhood ringing in their ears.
If there is only one thing you take on board about the art of communicating with your teenager it is this - criticize your teens behavior but never your teen.
There is a whole world of difference between ‘what you did was very stupid’ and ‘you are stupid’.
Sentences beginning with ‘why’ or ‘you’ are more like to end up as critical statements that only serve to attack your teen and put them down.
Instead try to get your teen thinking about the consequences of their behavior and choose language aimed at provoking thought. Try to start sentences with ‘I need’, ‘When you’ ‘It makes me feel…’
The Art of Communication with Teenagers – Respect
In the same way that it is important to validate your teen, it is also important that you respect their thoughts, feelings, needs and desires.
By showing them respect, teaches them to respect themselves and in turn respect others. It also teaches them that they matter and have something to offer.
Teens respect boundaries. Be clear with your teen about what you expect from them and what they can expect from you. Ensure they understand there are consequences to their actions and when they go off track ensure the punishment fits the crime.
Don’t make threats you cannot keep.
And Finally…
Praise, Praise and More Praise
From childhood all the way through their teenage years and beyond, your child can never have enough
praise.
When you praise your teen your are nourishing their self worth and raising their self esteem which will in turn help them to grow into a confident adult sure of themselves and their ability to achieve the things they set out to do.
The art of communication with teenagers is a legacy you can pass on. The way you communicate with your teen will dictate the way they communicate with others.
ANGEL
